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Dr. John Gray, author of Men Are From Mars Women Are From Venus said this. "Don't give a man a paycheck he didn't earn." We women think "holding down" a man until he gets back on his feet or offering to cook him dinner when you're only one date in tells him you are a keeper. Quite the contrary. It tells him that for little effort, he can get your best.
A man doesn't deserve a paycheck for making you feel good.
My heart goes out to Mary, yes, but her's is a cautionary tale for any woman who is exchanging glances with another woman -- you know that knowing glance that says, "happened to me too." I have to call bull shiggety on that! Somewhere along the way somebody modeled for us that feelings of euphoria with a man earns him a big whopping paycheck. It doesn't.
A man is not responsible for your heart. I know that we women want to make him the culprit; but are you ready for some grown woman truth? You had to betray you before he did. Self betrayal is limping away from a break up without attending to what got broken. That, he is not responsible for.
From the day Mary came on the scene, her songs were about one bad relationship after another. For years, Mary's songs were the soundtrack for every lovelorn emotion. As much as I love the mean (in a good way) beats and arrangements of her songs, the lyrics were the wailings of a tortured soul. When you are begging a man to stay with you, something is broken inside of you that needs attention. It doesn't matter that she went through a transformation after getting married that landed her on Hollywood's Best Dressed List. If you put lip stick on a pig, it is still a pig. I'm not calling Mary a pig. She is a beautiful and talented woman. What I mean is no matter how you dress something up, the truth of what it is remains.
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