Why Having Too Much Chemistry Can Kill A Budding Romance

Ask most daters what they are looking for when they meet the opposite sex for the first time and they'll tell you chemistry. Here's why a lot of chemistry kills a budding romance.

Chemistry is like fire.  If the fire is contained, it brings warmth and comfort.  If the fire is not, it can destroy everything!  By the same token, a lot of chemistry might give you both a rush.  But what do you have afterwards?  For men, it leaves little motivation to continue. This is a big surprise for women who can't figure out why he hasn't called them back or wonder what could have caused him to lose interest.  Unlike it is for men, for a woman, it is what makes her want more. She can't wait for him to call her again and she tells her friends that they made a real connection. I thought the same and then I talked with Dr. John Gray, author of MEN ARE FROM MARS WOMEN ARE FROM VENUS.  What he said made so much sense.  He explained the chemical affects on getting flooded with dopamine, the pleasure hormone, too soon in a relationship.  To keep that from happening, he suggests that you take things slow.  By doing so, you can maintain just enough pleasure to keep you both interested while increasing the likelihood of building something real.

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What Good Men Really Think About A Woman Making The First Move

If you are waiting for the man to make the first move, you might want to think again.  Good men have weighed in and what they have to say might surprise you.

While they agree that men are hunters, it doesn't mean that they like the risk of getting rejected by women.  In fact, good men like it when a woman asserts herself. Different from the aggressive woman who tries to take a page from a man's play book, the savvy grown woman knows how to give him the red light without breaking a sweat. Because she understands how men think and she knows her power, she sends invitations that are subtle and sexy.  It's a toss of her hair. It's a flirty smile.  It's walking away from the group she's with to give him clear access.  She does it with such class that no one else is any the wiser.

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Did You Know That A Man Can Tell A Lot About You Just By The Way You Walk?

While Professor Mehrabian's often quoted and misquoted 7% rule is debatable, one thing you cannot deny.  Men read your body language before you even open your mouth.  In fact, he relies on it.  With one glance, he gets the cue that you're interested.  With another, that you're not.  The same is true about your walk.

What does your walk tell a man about you?  If he detects a musicality to your gait as if you're listening to your favorite song or are just happy with life, he takes away that you are approachable.  He sees a possible opening for him to interact with you.  On the other hand, if you're looking down and your Prada pumps are pounding the sidewalk with abject resolve, he gets the message, "Not interested. In a hurry.  Buzz off."  Rather than risk it, he's going to trust the wisdom of Shakira: The hips don't lie.

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Why Friends With Benefits Make The Best Relationship Partners

Doesn't matter who came up with Friends With Benefits and the definition they gave it, the truth is Friends With Benefits make the best relationship partners. Before you write me off as a misogynist and demand my feminist card, let me explain.

By definition, a friend is someone we know and have an abiding affection for, right.  So building a strong friendship with the man you're interested in is a good thing.  But what about the word benefits. Let's take a look.  Contrary to the label, a benefit, put simply, is an advantage. In fact, benefit means to receive an advantage, profit or gain.  When you go out on a date with someone, you want to know what they have to offer else what's the point. So, how about ditching the label and build yourself a strong Friends With Benefits relationship.  Just make sure both of you are benefiting

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Why You Should Act Like A Lady, But NOT Think Like A Man

One of my favorite books on relationships is Steve Harvey's ACT LIKE A LADY THINK LIKE A MAN.  In it, he takes us deep into the man cave. I mean deep.  You know the places where there are locks on the doors that only men have the codes to.  In fact, his wisdom about how men think helped me a lot in the early days of dating my husband.  That said, I have to challenge the notion that a woman should think like a man.

Here's why.  I've had a front row seat for several years at the evolution in the way men and women relate.  Without a doubt, women have always run things: the home, the children, their men.  So that's nothing new.  But their strength was their ability to influence.  Never have I seen women so aggressively ambitious (oftentimes emasculating men then calling them weak because "they can't handle a strong woman") as I have seen in this present day of dating and relationships.  Perhaps, it's because we've eaten the lie that we are less when we've always been more.

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