Step One: Do an emotional cleanse.
Pain doesn't just go away. It simply goes into volcano posture. At first it looks as if everything is fine. There is no spewing. No smoke. Only an occasional gurgle. What we don't understand is there is still activity. The pain is still there. Give it time and the right conditions and it will gush molten lava, burning up everything that it comes in contact with. Relationships are destroyed by its cascade of destruction.
When you stop feeling the pain or meet a new man, it is easy to think that everything is okay. How you feel throughout the progression is more telling.
Step Two: Eat healthy.
Just as it is counterproductive to buy a greasy hamburger after a detox, it is counterproductive to feed yourself the same toxic diet of erroneous beliefs. The way you challenge those beliefs and exorcise them from your body is to feed yourself by educating yourself.
Find out what healthy looks like in a man. As I said in my previous post, Don't Give A Man A Paycheck He Didn't Earn, we women assume that giving demonstrates that we are "good women," wife material, a keeper. Your girlfriends believe the same. Here's the thing. You aren't dating your girlfriends. You are dating men. Men see things completely different. So, in order to be effective in your relationships with men, you need to know his language (how he communicates love and respect) and his culture (how he's wired).
